If you have been a Christian for any length of time, you more than likely know a familiar feeling. There’s a certain thing (or maybe several certain things) that you have been praying to God about and you feel at a loss. Why? Because it seems as though God isn’t there anymore or simply isn’t listening. He seems silent – a deafening silence.
You have no doubt He is still very much real but your certain situation doesn’t seem to be getting any better. “Why not? I have prayed day and night. Yet, I can’t see the light at the end. Everything is dim.”
Here are a few answers to this question:
- There is a sin pattern you continue to act on. The Bible says to get rid of our “old self” and put on our “new self.” (Ephesians 4:19-24) This means we should no longer continue our old sin patterns and expect to have a smooth sailing relationship with God. Here is an example: A woman caught her husband cheating on her. After much repentance from the husband, she decided to work things out with him. They decide to go to marriage counseling and he promises not to have sex outside of their marriage. The husband remains faithful to his wife from that point forward and begins to earn her trust back.
How do you think this situation would have ended up if the husband told his wife, “I’m sorry you had to find out about that. I’m sorry it hurt your feelings, but I am still going to continue doing what I am doing. I am going to sleep with my mistress whenever I want and still come home to you.” This marriage would have ended.
It seems very simple when we apply this concept to our everyday lives and human relationships, but for some reason we tend to treat God a bit differently. Please allow me to stress the point that this does not mean God expects us to be PERFECT. We are human and can only act as humans. We will make mistakes. However, making a mistake from time to time and continually making a sinful decision is not the same thing. One translates : Oops! That thing I did was bad and I won’t do it again. I don’t want to disappoint (person) by doing it anymore. The other says: I like doing this thing and I won’t stop regardless of the consequences. I don’t care.
- You have hatred in your heart. The Love Chapter (1 Cor. 13) quickly explains that if we do not have love, everything we do is pointless. We can memorize Bible verses, give money to Charity, do all of the “religious things” but without love, our actions are worthless. This doesn’t mean we can’t be angry at someone. If someone treats you or someone you love unjustly, you have every right to feel upset about it. Even God himself gets angry. It becomes sin when anger over a certain situation morphs into hatred towards that person.
- This one is very simple: You prayed to God for something and he said no. No matter how much Christian culture sometimes wants us to believe God gives you whatever you want, whenever you want, the truth is at times he simply declines. God isn’t a genie; He is our Heavenly father. Sometimes dads say no.
- It isn’t the right time. God’s timing is perfect. He always works everything together for our good. We want things right now, with no delay, but God has his own plans for our lives. At times like these, I have to pray for patience and the ability to find contentment in the moment.
I hope the reasons above help you reflect on your own life. The list could quite possibly be longer, but these are the things I was able to think of based on my own experiences and knowledge of the Bible.
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Happy New Year!
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